Our Photos

Ah … dinner in Hawaii.

Kait’s best buddy

Missy with her little fish.

Our favorite beach to play ball.

Whoa!!

Brophy and Tess … ZZZZZZ

Kait is “Cool” in the sands of Hawaii.

Off to snorkel in Hawaii.

Vacation in the wine country

Santa comes to the house every Christmas!

Playin’ some ball in the yard.

Our home sweet home.

Brophy & Missy

If you choose us to adopt your baby, there are no words to explain the excitement we have to raise this child with every bit of love and affection we have in our hearts. We know that having a baby is a lifelong commitment. We are absolutely thrilled to add another child to our family through adoption!

We met ten years ago when a mutual friend set us up on a date. Brophy did not like being set up on dates and he almost did not show up. Lucky for us he did because we felt connected right away and knew we would marry. We are fortunate to have a very loving and very committed relationship. It is that rare kind of love and commitment that one hopes for once in a lifetime.

Our journey through infertility was a hard one but surprisingly it made the two of us even stronger as a couple. When working through hard times together, you really see each others’ true colors and we liked what we saw in each other. More than anything we wanted to have a family and to be parents. We decided that our children were meant to come to us through adoption.

Our Daughter Kait …
Brophy and I adopted Kait in January of 2009. We think adoption is a beautiful way to create a family. Before Kait, we knew we wanted kids and a family but we had no idea how much we would LOVE being parents! The experience has enriched our lives in ways we never imagined. Strangers actually comment that Kait looks so happy. That is the biggest compliment anyone could give us! We want our children to be happy and from a strong family with lots of love.

Kait is a mild mannered and curious little girl. She loves the outdoors. Literally when we walk out the front door to go on an adventure she gets a smile on her face. We take her to the beach and on hikes often. Because Brophy and I both have large families she is exposed to a lot of cousins as well as our friends’ kids. Kait loves the attention she gets from other kids. We know she will be a wonderful big sister. Brophy and I have great relationships with our brothers and sisters and we want our kids to have the joy of sharing their lives with siblings as well. Our dream is for our kids to be a year or two apart so they can grow up playing together and can attend school together.

Our Life Together …
Brophy and I really admire and respect each other and that has made us very dear friends. Because we enjoy each others’ company so much, it doesn’t take a lot for us to have a good time. Literally we are happy snuggling up and watching a funny movie like Anchor Man or going to dinner in Sausalito and chatting up a storm.

We recently moved to a new home in Mill Valley, California which is just off the Golden Gate Bridge and minutes north of San Francisco. The beautiful mountains here are filled with bright green ferns growing under huge redwood trees and we enjoy long hikes on the trails. You can hardly believe you are so close to the city and to the ocean. Early every Saturday morning we start the day off by taking Kait and our dog, Tess, to the beach to play ball. We get a kick out of watching Tess jump the waves to get to her ball. Brophy will throw it way far out in the water and nothing stops her from retrieving that ball! We giggle the entire time. It is also great having San Francisco so close to home so we can we rally up and do events in the city. During the holidays, we go to see the Nutcracker and then take a walk to Union Square to see the 80-foot Christmas tree with all its bright lights and countless ornaments. We also like going to the Union Street Fair to look at art, hear live music and eat hotdogs and sausage sandwiches. It will be such a joy when we can bring our children with us to enjoy these traditions.

We moved to Mill Valley for the beauty and serenity but also for the family environment. The schools here are rated among the top in the nation and because of that there are many families here with young children. Before we even had children our neighbor two doors down suggested that we all build gates in our back yards so the kids can play together. . We love it! This town has so much to offer our children. You see kids riding their bikes together while the parents drink coffee and socialize. Our home is a great place to raise a family as well. We have a large back yard and we envision our kids playing chase with the dog or hide and seek behind the big redwood tree.

Since Brophy has been successful in his career I was able to quit my old job and be a stay-at-home mom. I feel fortunate to have that choice. Most important to me is raising my kids and having a happy family. It’s no small job but it is the best and most important job I’ve ever had.

We love and adore our two-year old Labrador Retriever, Tess. She is a very happy, friendly and playful dog. Her favorite thing to do is play ball at the park and at the beaches. She will swim for hours if we let her, retrieving the ball from the water. She loves children and is very gentle with them. One game she plays is keep-away with our friends’ kids. She grabs one of their toys in her mouth and starts running in circles so the kids will chase her. We often wonder how we got the cutest dog ever made.

Missy about Brophy …
Brophy is an extremely smart person with a leadership personality, yet he has a soft, loving, loyal side to him that makes me just love him. He truly is the type of man that takes care of his family and is very committed and devoted to building a happy home. He is my rock. When the going gets tough, Brophy gets tougher. He put himself through law school and graduated at the top of his class. He does whatever he puts his mind to and has a will of steel. He loves his friends and his family and would give the shirt off his back if they were in need.

Brophy takes a lot of pride in being a good husband to me and being a good father to Kait. He will be the type of dad that will be very clear with discipline and will expect our children to behave and to be polite with others. At the same time, he will be a dad that has fun. When I see him with Kait my heart melts. Each morning, before work, Brophy goes into Kait’s room to get her out of bed. When he walks in her room her face lights up with a big smile. Her arms start flailing about and she lets out a little squeal. He gets her out of bed and spends time playing with her before he gets ready for work. You can see how much they love each other. Brophy will get down on his hands and knees roll around the floor making funny faces and talking in silly voices. It will be nice when there are two kids to roll around with! As our children grow up Brophy will be the dad that reads books, helps with homework and coaches Little League like his father did with him and his siblings.

Brophy about Missy …
Missy has a heart of gold. She is a loving, sincere and affectionate person and that is why I fell in love with her. She is a “people person” who cares about her friends and family more than anything. She is this way in motherhood as well. Missy is a giver at heart and because of that, everyone who knows her loves her.

Missy is a very available and a very nurturing mom. She will be there for our children whether it is at a parent-teacher meeting at school or at the end of a school day to sit and do homework. She will be the mom to teach our children to ride their bike with no training wheels and the mom to nurse a skinned up knee that needs some tender, loving care.

Missy fills her life with people that are important to her. She is happiest when we have a house full of family and friends. Missy loves to have dinner parties for our friends and their kids. When they come over the kids run about the house and the yard showing off their cartwheels and playing with the dog. You hear the sound of little feet pitter-pattering throughout the house. Missy couldn’t be happier. It is almost like the louder our house is, the happier Missy is.

Missy has spent the last five years teaching herself to cook, but her meals taste like she has been cooking her whole life. Our family and friends always rave. She makes healthy, organic meals. At the end of a hard days work I look forward to coming home to the smell of her cooking.

Since Missy and I met, we have talked about having kids. Missy is an extraordinary mom. After all, being the oldest of 16 grandkids she has been practicing her whole life. When you see her with Kait you just know that Missy was meant to be a mom. We are both excited to add another child to our family through adoption.

Our Families …
Our families are extremely supportive and excited about our decision to adopt. They love Kait and we plan lots excursions to get our large families together. Our nieces and nephews love having more cousins to play with and our parents can not get enough grandchildren to spoil! We are so fortunate to be from families that are close and enjoy spending time together.

Brophy’s family lives in San Diego, California. He has two sisters and a brother and they have given us two adorable nieces and three sweet nephews. A favorite pass time at Brophy’s parent’s house is swimming in the pool. We also frequently spend the day at the beach building sand castles and barbequing Maui ribs. During the holidays a favorite Christmas tradition is Brophy’s dad dressing up like Santa Claus. Oh the excitement this creates!! This most recent Christmas Brophy’s family got a big house in Lake Tahoe and 16 of us were there for a week. Brophy’s dad dressed as Santa and I was somehow talked into being an elf. Kait kept staring at me with her mouth open. She didn’t know what to think about mom dressed in bells. The kids had a ball playing in the snow. Brophy’s mom baked sweets for the kids. It was a good time. Brophy’s family has a great sense of humor so there is always silly joking and contagious laughter in the house. Also, Brophy’s father has season tickets to the Padres baseball games at Petco Ballpark so we all pile in the car and go to the games together. Yes, even the kids go!

My family lives in Fresno, California. I have a sister and a brother who have given us a niece and three nephews who are an absolute joy. Spending time with my family usually means we all end up at one person’s house barbequing or cooking. Everyone in my family loves to cook so there is always tasty food around like my mom’s home-made lasagna or my brother’s pork posoli or my sister’s specially grilled meats. My brother has a swimming pool so we all swim during the hot Fresno summers doing limitless tricks off the diving board. Also, my father has a cabin in Oregon and between snow mobiles in the winter and the ATVs and dirt bikes in the summer there are always fun, outdoor activities for the kids and the adults.

Our House …
We live in a beautifully-remodeled home built in the 1930s with five bedrooms, four bathrooms, a living room, a family room and a wonderful gourmet kitchen. We love having out-of-town family and friends visit and this home allows plenty of room for them to stay. What we like most about our home is the happy, cheerful feeling it gives. It is on a hill and has lots of windows and gets a lot of sun. The nursery is close to our bedroom and is waiting for a baby to make it their own. We bought this home because it is such a wonderful place to make happy family memories.

Our Vacations …
We both love the ocean and being near the water so our travels are usually to tropical places. We are passionate about scuba diving so early every spring we take a trip to either Mexico or the Hawaiian islands. Kait went on her first vacation to Hawaii when she was four months old and she did great. What a wonderful place for a family to vacation.

Brophy grew up surfing in San Diego so he is a natural when it comes to scuba diving. He recently did a deep dive where he saw a school of Hammerhead sharks. That is a story he will tell his grandchildren!! I grew up swimming in the fresh water lakes in Fresno and swam on my high school swim team and although I am not as gutsy as Brophy, I love to dive as well. Also, one of our favorite things to do when traveling is to see how people in different countries live. Because of that our second vacation each year is usually to a more cultured place like Bali, Thailand, Cambodia or Italy. It will be a joy when our little one can take these trips with us.

Our Dream for the Future …

We value higher education and we will encourage our kids to go to college. We will also support them financially in this pursuit. More than anything, we want our children to have a fun, loving childhood with many happy memories of family and friends to take with them on their journey into adulthood.

As far as staying in contact, we would be happy to keep in touch with you over the years. If you are willing we would like to send letters and pictures. Brophy and I feel that as we all get to know each other the relationship will evolve. We have respect for you and the difficult decision you are facing. Whatever your decision, please know that we think you are a loving, giving and selfless person. If you should choose to place with us we will make sure this child knows that about you. If you are interested in talking with us you can call Cindy Simonson with A Loving Alternative (anytime) at 800-556-5635. We look forward to talking to you.

Thoughtfully yours,
Brophy and Missy

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