We know that you will only get a quick look into our lives through this letter, and we hope that you can see that we are a couple full of compassion, patience, and laughter. We would love to get a chance to talk to you more if you can imagine your child with us after you’re done looking through our profile. Until then, thank you for taking the time to learn more about us.
On our first date, we ended up talking for six hours and things just clicked. We shared pictures of our animals: Tobias, a fat, orange cat and Ollie, a goofy, three-legged dog. Both of us shared stories from our careers: Tim as a kindergarten teacher and Colleen as a social worker for the elderly, and could see the passion the other had for their chosen professions. We discussed the importance of family and how we both shared the dream of raising children through adoption. We quickly made plans based on our mutual interests including checking out new restaurants, going to the public museum for an exhibit on dinosaurs, and helping each other with projects around the house. The pieces of our lives just naturally fell together in a harmonious manner. We married after a short 18 months of knowing each other and are currently living our happily ever after in our new home. We purchased our home because we were immediately able to picture our future family in it. The community we moved into has numerous playgrounds, a library with a fairy tale theme, sledding hills for the winter, swimming pools for the summer, and a top-ranked elementary school just a few blocks away.
Our day to day life is quite simple and rewarding. We go to jobs that we love, make dinner together every night, take Ollie for a walk, and take time to unwind by reading or playing a game. We enjoy going on vacations to explore new areas or to see friends who are scattered around the country, but in the end we enjoy coming back to the comforts of our home that we have created. Adoption has always been a desire of ours regardless of our ability to have biological children. Now that we know that’s not an option for us, adoption is an even more special and important way to grow our family.
About Colleen through Tim’s eyes
It’s hard for me to put into words just how wonderful Colleen truly is. Colleen is the love of my life. She is my biggest cheerleader and the most caring, supportive person I know. When I’m having a bad day, she’s quick with a hug and always there to listen. When I experience something wonderful, she shares in my excitement completely. Her heart is so full of love and happiness that I know she will be an amazing mom. The fact that she bakes the world’s best chocolate chip cookies doesn’t hurt, either. Colleen loves working with her hands, whether it’s gardening, baking, knitting, or creating a new craft to make our house even more adorable than it already is. She spends days in the garden every summer planting and nurturing and planning how to make our backyard a warm and inviting place to read and relax.
Just thinking about Colleen makes me smile. She is filled with a sense of adventure and brings that feeling into our home. On any given weekend she might be visiting the penguins at the zoo, exploring the newest exhibit at the art museum, or planning a bike ride along the lake.
Colleen is someone who will never be bored. She constantly plans activities for us and our friends, and whenever we’re out I can see the wheels turning in her head as she plans outings and adventures for our future little ones as well. Colleen amazes me every day, and nothing is more exciting to me than the idea of raising a family with her by my side.
About Tim through Colleen’s Eyes
Tim is my better half. He has an infectious optimism that is evident on a daily basis. My favorite part of the day is coming home and catching up as we make dinner together. He celebrates small, seemingly insignificant things like me having a good meeting at work or one our pets doing something cute. He knows what to say to make a bad day more bearable, and if he cannot find the words, his hugs are enough.
I know that he will be a great father. He has a never-ending supply of patience, reliability, kind words, and dad jokes. I can picture him taking a genuine interest in whatever our child’s hobbies will be, reading books and helping with homework, providing guidance instead of directives, and taking the time to explain things in a way that makes sense.
Tim likes to work with his hands and is always tinkering with something around the house. He is constantly striving to learn new skills, something I imagine him passing on to our children. Tim is great at making our home more joyful by buying a silly doodad for my desk, making household chores fun, or delighting in something that had previously gone unnoticed.
I know that when we bring our child home, Tim will be by my side as we share the joys and challenges of parenthood. He will also be up to do midnight feedings and 2 am diaper changes. He will find contentment watching our baby sleep. He will share in the joy of first steps and words. He will find the humor in blow out diapers even when I can’t see it.
About Us through our friend’s eyes
Our friends and family are excited about us adopting and we wanted to give them a voice in our profile:
“I cannot think of two more caring or thoughtful people to recommend as they take this next step to grow their family.”
“They have a solid, loving, marital relationship and their home has calm, joyful, and cozy energy.”
“Their relationship is one I strive to emulate in its sincerity, playfulness, honesty, and its commitment to communication. They have the ability to not just cope with struggles and things that cannot be, but grow stronger.”
“Colleen is calm, patient, kind, and has an aura of empathy about her. Since I have known her, she has always thought of others first. Colleen is someone who truly lives her values. Tim, a kindergarten teacher, is just as kind and contagiously funny. Tim has years of experience working with young children and it is apparent that he absolutely loves what he does.”
What we hope to offer a child
We are eagerly looking forward to our baby coming home so that we can shower them with love, laughter, and happiness. We will teach our child about the importance of being kind, persistent, and silly. How do we plan on doing this? We plan on having our children participate in volunteer work, helping with gardening in the backyard to grow their own vegetables, taking the time to recognize the small, daily wonders, not taking ourselves too seriously, and lots of hugs. Together we hope to inspire a love of lifelong learning by sharing our passions with our children. If they are interested in working with their hands, Tim will bring them into his workshop to build something unique. If they would rather show their artistic side, Colleen has endless craft supplies and an open mind. Between the two of us, we have many different skills to help foster any passions our child may have. And if we don’t have the skill already, we’ll educate ourselves so we can be our child’s biggest cheerleaders.
We come from small and loving immediate families. We both have parents who live in the area and are eager to be doting grandparents as this will be their first grandchild. In addition, we are lucky enough to have a strong support system from our friends. Our best friends have started to grow their families, so there will be a lot of playmates for our child! Everyone we know is excited and encouraging of us adopting.
Thoughts on Adoption
We believe it is important to know where you came from to understand where you are going, and plan on being open with our child about how they came into our lives. We will have discussions with you about what you want your involvement to be, and will make a plan to send pictures and updates based on what feels right for all of us. In the end, we feel that the more people in our child’s life that love them, the better! We will always honor what you have done for our family and we will never be able to forget that.
If you are interested in learning more about us or set up a time to talk, please call Cindy (anytime) at A Loving Alternative, (800)556-5635.
All the best,
Tim and Colleen