Hi, my name is Drina
I’m a happy, educated, down to earth person and live a stable, healthy life in Massachusetts. My day to day world is full of loving friends and family who are as excited as I am for me to adopt. I’ve always wanted to be a mom and am thrilled that the right time is finally here.
I’m looking forward to getting to know you and hearing your story. Until then, thank you for reading about me and how I can provide a great life for your baby.
I was born and raised in Bolivia, a small country in South America, but have been in the United States for eleven years now. I am a very positive, driven person and have worked hard to build a successful life that I’m extremely proud of. After many years of education, goal setting and a relentless will to succeed, I’m established and ready to start a family.
The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is turn on some upbeat music, this sets the tone for my day. I sit and eat breakfast and say hello to my friends – yes, I am like….15. Then I drive to work. Music loud. Singing loud.
Friends and family are the most important thing in my life. My friends are the family I get to choose and I call them “my village”. I surround myself with positive people and this child will have a large group of aunts and uncles that will always be there for him/her, providing guidance, advice and setting a great example. My friends and I get together often after the gym, or for dinner or brunch on weekends, which give us the chance to catch up on what is going on in our lives. Some of them have children, so they share the latest on their activities and anecdotes. It’s amazing how times flies when we are together. I can’t wait for my child to join the group and get to know everybody. We even have some roles assigned in the group: for example, Larry is in charge of wardrobe. Larry and Chris are two of my closest friends and will be my child’s legal guardians.
My sister and her family live in Bolivia and I speak with them (all 3 generations of “them”) every few weeks. She has two daughters and a granddaughter, who now knows me as more than just a voice on the phone, since I visited for Christmas of 2015 and got to hang out with her a lot. I also spent lots of time with my nieces, with whom I am very close. When I was living in Bolivia I used to talk to my nieces every day, and sometimes I would pick them up from school and have lunch with them. We would do something every single weekend.
My brother lives in Dubai, and visits a couple of times a year when he flies into Boston. He has two adult children that live the U.S. and sometimes we are lucky enough to share a few hours together.
When I’m at home there’s always music or TV playing. I enjoy the neighborhood pool all summer, I like watching movies, and I love science fiction movies and books. I can’t wait to show my son or daughter the magic of reading.
I usually celebrate holidays with another group of friends, whom I call “the United Nations” since we come from all over the world. We take turns hosting a holiday and I host Thanksgiving. On that day we gather at my home and each person brings something to eat. We do a lot of activities during the year, like going to the beach, kayaking, going out for ice cream in the summer, or just getting together and laughing.
I have always had an active lifestyle and believe it’s important to love and respect your body. I was a basketball player when I was younger and played until an injury ended my basketball career. Later, I became a fitness instructor – I love this activity and I teach as often as I can. Most days after work I go to the gym to take or teach a class. This is the highlight of my day. When I teach I feel like everything is all right with the world and I have the chance to empower a group of people into leading a healthy, strong, fit life. It’s one of the most rewarding things I do. Through this passion for fitness I’ve made many close friends (my village) and often spend time with them after we workout.
Once I welcome a child into my life my routine will change a bit. Rather than hitting the gym every day, I will go for a jog with him or her in a stroller, and spend time in a park swinging and playing and showing them how much fun it is to be active.
Being born in a third world country, with all the limitations that implies, has never stopped me. I wanted more in life and worked very hard to get an education. I always liked school and find that learning, especially math, is like magic. My greatest opportunity to get a higher level of education was earning a Fulbright scholarship (only 5 of those are awarded in my country every year). This allowed me to come to graduate school in the United States and earn my Master’s degree in Computer and Information Science. This wonderful opportunity allowed me not only to get a higher education, but also opened the world for me. I made friends from all over the world and got to know about different cultures. During this time, I fell in love with the U.S. – all the opportunities, the diversity, how everything works, and decided to make it my permanent home.
The journey to becoming a citizen was not easy: it took 250 interviews to find a sponsor to be able to work. Once that happened, my life changed forever. I worked as a network engineer and recently got promoted to Information Technology Manager for a big government contractor company. I love what I do and have reached a point in my career where I almost think I know what I am doing. I started with nothing in this country and little by little I managed to rise to the point that now I have my own home and live a comfortable life. A life that now can include a child.
What My Friends Say About Me
I met Drina about four years ago in the hardest, most physically demanding, mentally challenging and emotionally grueling weekend of my life. We had an instant connection. That surpassed the training we were doing. We just clicked. It was clear from the moment we started talking that she was really listening to me and caring about what I was saying. She was genuine, she laughed with me and cried with me. She felt my pain and I felt hers. It was clear to me then, and it remains clear, that she is the kind of person who will open her heart to you, give you the shirt off her back if you need it, hold your hand when you need it and push you past your limits when you don’t realize you need it!! And all the while, she will make your stomach ache from laughing so hard! She has persevered and pushed herself in every aspect of her life. From coming to a foreign country, learning the language, earning a Fulbright, getting a job she loves, to becoming a citizen. The only thing left and for her, the most important and most fulfilling is having her own family! I have no doubt that she will accomplish this and succeed in it just as she has in every other aspect of her life. With a tremendous amount of energy, respect, courage, enthusiasm, love and laughter!
Every once in a while your life becomes unexpectedly blessed by a special human being. A little over three years ago, I was introduced to Drina at a Body Combat class. Immediately, I was drawn to her firecracker personality, and her beautiful, Latina sensibilities. Drina and another one of my group fitness colleagues decided to go through an intensive weekend-long instructor training, and that was where I discovered that this person would be in my life forever. All of us were physically and mentally exhausted throughout the experience, yet Drina’s sense of humor sustained us and boosted our spirits when we needed it most. She made no apologies about shaking her hips while executing martial arts, so we have called her “Shakira” ever since; Drina’s hips don’t lie!
I have known Drina for 3+ years now. I am proud to call her my chosen sister. We first met when she took my Body Combat class. Shortly thereafter, she decided to become an instructor herself and I had the pleasure of mentoring her. She was receptive and eager to better herself with each experience.
My friends and I quickly welcomed her into our circle and embraced her genuine friendship. Drina is warm, kind, caring and considerate of others’ feelings and needs. We all have had the opportunity to experience her intuitiveness, clear thinking and wise advising as she has always generously offered her love and support when we needed a true friend.
She is the biggest success story I know. She came to the states alone as a young woman on a scholarship with hopes of one day becoming a US citizen. She has single handedly made that dream a reality with her courage, determination and perseverance. She started with nothing and has recently earned a management position with a well-respected company. I know I speak for all of our friends when I say we are thrilled that Drina has planted her roots near us. We couldn’t be more proud of her.
I have known Drina for about 2 years and during that time, I have grown to love her like a sister. She is kind, thoughtful and the most loyal friend one could ever imagine having. She is also very smart and driven in her journey to make a life for herself. She has overcome adversity coming from another country, with English as a second language. She started out with essentially only the clothes on her back, and earned a Fulbright Scholarship, her Master’s degree and now she has a job she loves where she just received a promotion. I have the deepest love and respect for her as a person and wish her all the best on this continued journey.
Thoughts on Parenting
I want to be a mom because I have a lot of love to give and look forward to all the little things involved with parenting; things like teaching them to kick a ball, how to swim, how to tie their shoes and how to climb a tree. If I adopt a girl, I cannot teach her to braid her hair since I don’t know how to do that, so we will learn together. I think about how wonderful it will be to nurture this new little person from the beginning, showing them the cool stuff in life as well as the real stuff. I’ll try to share my love of math and make it fun for them too, but of course I might end up with an artist that can sing and make fun of me because I can’t. That would be awesome and I imagine we both will laugh about it. It would also be funny when they’re old enough to correct my English. In my mind, I see us teaching each other many things.
I plan to expose my child to a million opportunities, different cultures and different opinions. I believe we all need to respect everybody else’s point of view, even if we think differently, learn tolerance, and build understanding.
Education is paramount and the best asset I can provide my child to give him or her the tools they will need to succeed in the world.
Over the years, I’ve thought a lot about how I got where I am today and what it took to overcome adversity to achieve my dreams. These are some of the values and important ideals that helped me and I hope to share with my child:
- Always strive for excellence. Even though you might not end up being the best at everything, always do your best.
- Embrace diversity and respect everybody else’s opinion. Listen to their opinion and then give yours.
- Get out of your comfort zone, challenge your limits.
- Set goals and don’t worry about how you’re going to get there. Set the goal, visualize you’re already there. As I heard somewhere, “the universe will conspire in your favor”.
- The truth is easier to remember.
Thoughts on Adoption
I have always wanted a family, but wanted to wait until I had firmly planted my roots and had a stable financial situation. Adoption was always in the back of my head. After careful consideration, I realized that no matter how a child gets to my life, he or she will be my family, and I will love him or her unconditionally and give everything in my power to provide a good life in all aspects.
I am ready to give all my love to a child, to be a role model for them and nurture them from day one. This child will always know their story. I will talk about adoption even when the child is too young to understand anything, so it will be an open subject of discussion at all times. If it is fine with you, I will share details about you and how much you love them, and refer to you as the birth mother. It will be very important to me that they understand your decision was made out of love and courage. If you would like to, I can send photos as the child grows.
Thank you for reading my letter.
If you would like to learn more about me or speak with me on the phone, please call Cindy at
A Loving Alternative: (800) 556-5635.