We are Rob and Julie and we’d like to thank you for taking time to learn more about us.
This time in your life is understandably important, and we can only imagine the emotional journey you are on. Please know that you have shown incredible love and strength in considering an adoption plan.
Our dream of having a child began many years ago, but since we are not able to have a child on our own, we are thankful for the opportunity to become adoptive parents. We are grateful for this chance to share more about who we are, the type of home we can provide and what type of parents we’ll be.
We met 17 years ago through a mutual friend on a group houseboat trip. As a favor to our friend, Julie offered to pick Rob up at the airport and get them both to the houseboat. We hit a series of comical roadblocks; we got lost on the drive up, the location to meet the boat was incorrect, and then our friend’s cell phone was out of range. What was supposed to be a quick hop on a boat became an adventure we shared and still laugh about. Although it wasn’t a ‘date’ we spent a lot of time together that day and it sparked a friendship. Starting out as friends gave our relationship a good foundation of trust, and our connection as friends and partners has strengthened over time.
In the fall, we’ll celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary. Our relationship remains strong because we share common values. Love, appreciation, patience, forgiveness, communication and honesty are all important to us. Although we aren’t perfect, we work on these values daily in our relationship. They are values we will teach our child as well.
We also share responsibilities at home to make sure our household runs smoothly. Julie focuses on making our home comfortable and inviting and on keeping our social life engaged. She pays the bills and does most of the household shopping. She plans vacations and enjoys decorating for the holidays. Rob focuses on home repairs, keeping our home safe and making sure things like retirement and long term finances are in order.
All work and no play is NOT our motto! We take time to have fun and laugh too. Some of the things we enjoy doing together are watching football, going to the beach, cooking together and watching movies. We can have just as much fun going out to our favorite theatre or staying home with a Redbox movie and a cozy fire.
We have an active lifestyle and are fortunate to live in an area where we can get outdoors most days. You will often find us hiking on local trails or taking in the ocean breeze while strolling on the beach.
When we entertain, we like to BBQ or play board games with family and friends. If it is a long weekend or vacation, we plan road trips to see family, go to Disneyland or go camping in the national or state parks nearby.
Friends and family say we are kind, compassionate, genuine and honest. They let us know we will make great parents. We are thankful loved ones support us in our journey towards adoption and we know they will help us welcome a child into our life.
Both born and raised in Southern California, we are fortunate to have family and friends very close. It also means there are lots of cousins and kids to act as companions and playmates for our child. Rob has four siblings and we have nine nieces and nephews on his side. Julie has two siblings and three nieces on her side. In addition, Rob’s aunt married an Irishman, and now has cousins living in England, Ireland and Australia. It is our dream to plan family vacations to these places.
Our home is in sunny San Diego and we live in a family friendly neighborhood near parks, the beach, walking trails and great schools. Rob’s parents live 10 minutes away and will be a great source of love and support to their new grandchild. Julie’s mom lives in Los Angeles and looks forward to staying with us for weeks at a time to help care for and bond with her new grandchild.
Our home has two playful Chihuahua dogs, Roxy and Bailey. They love attention and between playing and snuggling, will be good companions. Admittedly, they are a bit spoiled, but it is because we consider them part of the family!
About Julie by Rob
I love Julie for her incredibly kind personality, her huge heart and compassion for others. I admire her many strong healthy relationships with friends and family. Whether she is volunteering at a food bank, lending an ear to a friend or taking her older niece school shopping, she is ready to give her time and energy to help others.
One memory stands out early on while we were dating. Being a long-time bachelor, I wasn’t great at picking out presents for family. Shopping was never my thing. Julie immediately bonded with my family and just knew what would be nice, thoughtful gifts for my nephews and nieces. She wasn’t trying to impress me, but it’s just her personality to get along, love and bond with others. I know it sounds corny, but after helping me shop for Christmas and seeing the love and attention she put into wrapping those gifts, it was just one of the final experiences where I knew I wanted to marry her.
Julie enjoys reading fiction novels, photography, writing and making jewelry, especially earrings. She stays active through yoga, Zumba, hiking and running. I was incredibly proud of her when she trained for and ran a few half marathons.
Julie danced in high school and still has a passion for it. She won’t admit it to very many, but her two favorite shows are Dancing with the Stars and So You Think You Can Dance. I have walked in on a few of her “5 minute” dance breaks. She will crank up the music and just “dance it out”. It is funny and cute at the same time. She loves music. She’ll listen to anything from U2 to the Beatles to Shania Twain. She wants to learn to play the guitar, and I expect she’ll want to teach our child how to play as well.
One of Julie’s favorite places is the beach, usually for a long walk or run, or maybe just reading a bit in the sun. When time allows, she plans family visits in LA or does a weekend get-away with the girls. These are friends she has known over twenty years so we’ll have plenty of “aunties” to our baby one day.
I know Julie will be a good mom and offers unconditional love, patience and attention. I’ve seen her patiently teach her niece how to bake cupcakes and they even made a veggie platter look like a giant turkey one Thanksgiving. When we have nieces and nephews over, she’s always ready to play games with them, usually Candyland or Life. She’ll also be sure to make some kid-friendly snacks and have a Disney DVD on hand for entertainment.
Julie works for a medical technology company with the flexibility to work from home often. We plan to each take several months off to care for the child when we first adopt. Additionally, we’ll have early childcare help from both grandmothers. Our goal is to have Julie transition to work part-time to help balance daycare with family time and provide a good environment for our child.
About Rob by Julie
Rob is kind, compassionate, calm and incredibly smart. He has a big heart and is generous with his time and attention to his loved ones. Rob is non-judgmental and sees the good in everyone. These are just a few of the qualities that made me fall in love with him.
I’ve seen him happily take time to talk to his nephews and nieces and get to know what they are interested in. He has even been known to sit at the kids’ table on holidays and family dinners. He makes them laugh and will patiently answer question after question, the kids are always testing his teaching nature.
Rob enjoys sports and going to the movies. He also loves the outdoors and nature. When he has extra time, he likes to go backpacking, hiking, river rafting and camping.
I know Rob can’t wait to plan family camping trips. I imagine him patiently showing our child how to pitch the perfect tent and set up camp. He will make s’mores and cook hot dogs with our child, just as he has done with our friend’s kids. Rob is excited to plan family vacations to places like Yosemite and the Grand Canyon where we can hike and explore mother nature.
Rob is an avid reader. He reads at least one book a week, mostly spy novels and science fiction. Growing up he didn’t have a TV until he was 10 and his mom would read to him most nights. It is a routine he looks forward to continuing. We even have his favorite childhood book on the shelf in our nursery. His mom handed down the copy she used to read to him when we started trying to have a baby on our own.
Rob has a natural talent and love of teaching, science and coaching. He can easily explain and talk about how things work and why things are the way they are. When our child asks why the sky is blue, Rob will sit down with him/her and patiently give a simple answer to help explain exactly why the sky looks blue.
Rob was fortunate his parents were very accepting of his and his three sibling’s separate hobbies, education and career choices. His parents nurtured whatever interests they had, letting them test one thing after another. One of the things he looks forward to is helping a child in the same way, to explore what he or she is good at or interested in.
Rob has an established and steady job with the government and works in the technology field. He is also on faculty at a local college and teaches a couple of classes each year. His hours are predictable and his position is flexible enough so he can attend or participate in our child’s school events, activities or sports.
Thoughts on Parenting
When we become parents, we’ll be able to nurture a child and provide a calm, loving and safe home to grow up in. We’ll be there to bandage up scraped knees, wipe tears when feelings get hurt and to give hugs after bad dreams.
We’ll provide a child unconditional love, stability and patience. We’ll be there if they have trouble in school, when they throw a temper tantrum and when they accidentally break a dish in the kitchen. We’ll offer guidance and some rules to help them learn, grow and stay safe.
Education and experiences are important to us and we will support and nurture a child’s interests, passion and unique abilities so they are free to follow their own path and life-long learning. We’ll be there to help with homework, to drive them to soccer or music lessons and to help him/her decide on school programs or colleges.
We have a plan for college savings if our child wants to attend, but it is also important to have our child work a part-time or summer job to gain experience and confidence. We both grew up in working class families with limited means, and worked part-time while in college. We find there is value in working to get experience, learn responsibility and build skills.
From diapers, to teething, to bedtime stories, to snuggling, to the first day of school, to the last day of school, we are looking forward to all of it.
Thoughts on Adoption
When chosen as adoptive parents, we welcome the opportunity to be at the birth. When our child asks about the day they were born, we want to share beautiful details of how he/she came into this world. When the time is right, we will share their adoption story in a safe and loving manner so they value their heritage and the path that brought them to us.
Rob’s mother got pregnant when she was young, and decided on an adoption plan. She knows she made the right decision, but in those days open adoptions were not normal. His mom still wonders how her baby grew up. This has helped shaped our thoughts on adoption and our wish is to provide pictures, letters and updates to you. We want our child to have answers about his or her history, but we want to honor your wishes and ensure comfort for all of us.
Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts, for learning more about us. We look forward to the day we are blessed as adoptive parents. We will love, cherish and protect the child we bring into our lives.
If you are interested in learning more about us or to arrange an initial phone call, please contact Cindy (anytime) with A Loving Alternative at (800) 556-5635.
Julie and Rob