We are excited to be on this amazing journey to start our family, and appreciate you taking the time to read through our profile.
We are an active, healthy couple who love spending time with family, going on adventures, and hosting themed parties in our home. Ryen is great at creating décor and sometimes costumes, while Kelsey can match appetizers and cocktails to fit in with just about any party theme.
From early on in our relationship we knew it was highly likely that we would adopt our children. This will be our first child, and the first grandchild on either side of the family. Our family and close friends are very supportive and excited to hear how this journey will unfold. We are eager to find our child, and to meet the courageous family our future child will come from. It is our hope that this letter will give you a small glimpse into our lives, and aid you in finding the best choice for you and your child.
Our Life Together
We have been together since 2011, and were married in 2015. We met after a Providence roller derby match where Ryen had come as a spectator and Kelsey had been officiating. From that night forward, we realized we truly bring out the best in each other. Each of us brings our unique, best qualities to the relationship, and we’ve been able to learn and grow from each other. We practice open communication, talk about big decisions before they are made, and have respect for each other’s opinions.
Kelsey grew up in Rhode Island. Ryen made his way to Rhode Island via the United States Navy. He joined the Navy after high school as a nuclear mechanic on submarines, which included operating the nuclear reactor to power the submarine. During his time serving, he was able to prioritize his life goals. He realized he did not want to raise a family while in the military, and was honorably discharged after his second enlistment. We both appreciate having the ability to raise a family in one location. While Ryen was stationed at his final duty in Groton, CT, we met in Rhode Island, which ultimately led to us beginning our family here.
Our home is warm and inviting. We’ve decorated the walls with family photographs from fun events and memorable trips, which will help tell our story to our future child. Our residential neighborhood supports a great community where the neighbors know each other by name, families represent a variety of backgrounds, and we are close by our family and friends. There are many areas for nature walks nearby our house where we enjoy taking our dogs to play and explore. We have two small dogs; Payson is an eight year old cocker spaniel/Jack Russell terrier mix and Chamomile is a one year old mini schnauzer. The dogs are well-trained, love people and children, and enjoy visiting our friends and family.
We enjoy traveling together, and hope to continue this hobby throughout our lives and with our children. We travel to Maine every few years to go white water rafting. We’ve traveled with family to drive the Pacific Coast Highway, visiting Redwood National Forest and Glass Sand Beach.
We are blessed to have the example and wisdom of close friends who’ve recently adopted their son. Our journey to the choice of adoption differs from theirs, but the advice they can share about their process is encouraging and inspiring. Early on in our relationship, Kelsey shared her desire to eventually adopt a child and Ryen was immediately accepting of this idea.
Our sister-in-law describes our relationship as balanced, in a way that we are cohesive, and complement each other’s moods and mindset. She shares “it’s amazing to see other couples who have been married for decades who don’t complement each other the way Ryen and Kelsey do.”
About Kelsey by Ryen
Kelsey is passionate about caring for others and ensuring everyone is happy. I think this is part of her nature. Her caring personality is exemplified in the work she does at the local children’s hospital. I can see the enjoyment she gets from seeing others having fun as a result of her efforts. Not only does Kelsey provide a fun and enriching environment for the children at the hospital, but she does the same for me and others in her life. She is often finding new ways to surprise me with something whether for my birthday or our anniversary, like a surprise overnight stay in Cape Cod one year before our wedding. This also plays into her adventurous side. We both love spending time outside and enjoying nature’s beauty. I know Kelsey’s sense of adventure will bring many fun experiences to our future family.
Kelsey loves thinking of new, fun craft ideas or recipes. She makes gifts for her friends around the holidays and they are always impressed by the quality and creativity she puts into her projects. The recipes she finds, either from friends or though books and blogs, typically end up being delicious and we revisit them or change them to our tastes. I love how she shares the same enjoyment from trying new activities as I do.
Kelsey works as a child life specialist at a local children’s hospital. She supports children and families by fostering normal childhood development and aiding in creating a comfortable, safe, child-friendly environment in the hospital despite chronic, life-threatening illness. The passion she has for her job and the families whose lives she touches is inspiring. When I am there or hear her talk about work, I see how her personality and caring nature will make her an outstanding mother. She has a special way of communicating with children; she can break something complex down to their level, so they fully understand.
About Ryen by Kelsey
Ryen enjoys being active and working with his hands. He doesn’t often sit still, and usually has a project he’s working on. I love that he is so handy around the house. I never have to worry about needing to get something fixed, and I love the handmade furniture pieces we have in our home. If Ryen is sitting still, he enjoys reading, and always has a book from the library. We both look forward to reading to our children, and sharing the importance of literacy
Ryen grew up being active outdoors in Arizona, riding bikes, hiking, and exploring. He still loves mountain and BMX biking, hiking the trails near our home, and being outside. Riding the bike path near our home will be a pastime we will share with our children. It’s wonderful that we can spend time together being active outside and I can’t wait to share our passions for travel and nature with our children.
Ryen is going to make an amazing father. While still a kid at heart, he enjoys being adventurous and silly. He has a keen awareness of a work life balance, and aims to prioritize our family and home life. He is excitedly talking about planning and building a fort for our children in the backyard. It is in these small moments and conversations that I am able to look at him in a bit of wonder and awe – curious as to how we are so blessed to have found each other in this crazy world – and see the eagerness he has to be a father and raise our family.
Ryen has a confident quality about him which people feel comfortable with. In leading by example he has taught me to stand up for myself more and to be more confident in my decisions. Ryen is a helper, and if he doesn’t know how to help he will figure it out. I always feel safe with him at home and when we’re traveling. His spontaneity and quick thinking will help us both as we raise our family, and learn and grow from what our children will teach us. All of these qualities are reasons I admire Ryen, and make me excited to raise our family together.
Ryen’s company builds submarines for the United States Navy. Ryen is the supervisor of the nuclear quality control inspection team. In his role, he supports and aides the team of inspectors in verifying that the components built by the company for the submarines are built correctly. Ryen holds tremendous responsibility in his role and takes his job very seriously. He doesn’t talk about work much at home because he believes work should stay at the office and he’d rather enjoy family time without the interference of work stress.
We plan to have the ability to flex our work schedules so our children will rarely need to spend time in daycare or with a babysitter. We’re lucky to have my parents close by; they are excited for their first grandchild and intend to aid in child care responsibilities. As we grow as a family, we’ll adapt to best suit the needs of our children and family.
What we Intend to offer a child
We intend to have a healthy balance of support, discipline, and respect within our family. We plan to set rules and expectations which generate understanding of responsibility and caring within our family. As our children learn from mistakes, we intend set reasonable punishments and limits for them to understand what behaviors are expected and how to remedy their misbehaviors, for example, writing letters of apology, serving in the community, or missing special events, if appropriate.
We intend to celebrate good report cards, achievements in athletics, and other milestones. We’ll encourage our child to be his or her own unique person, and pursue interests and hobbies which he or she enjoys. We value education, and when looking to buy our home last year, we searched in towns with high quality school systems. Our neighborhood is home to many families and children, who will be part of our child’s school community. We will support our children in community activities and sports teams. Whether our children are invested in pursuing a college degree or will look towards learning a trade, we will support them in their decisions. We will encourage them to earn and save for their futures, and aid with additional funds when needed.
Thoughts on Adoption
We look forward to understanding as much information as possible about you, and we are open to speaking and meeting in person prior to the birth. We hope you are receiving physical and emotional support through this process. We wish to create a healthy adoption plan which will provide lifelong support for our child. We want our child to have a positive understanding of adoption and his or her background. We are happy to provide pictures and updates after birth as we are extremely grateful for you and your amazing strength and selflessness. By maintaining a positive connection with you, we aim to aid our child in finding his or her own successful path in life.
We believe it is important for a child to know he or she is adopted and where he or she came from. We want our child to know he or she is loved, and you made the best choice you could by choosing us to provide a caring home. We cannot image the difficulty you’re facing. You are the hero in our family story, allowing us to have the dream we cannot create for ourselves. We will provide age-appropriate information to our child as he or she grows. We view adoption as an exciting and positive way to grow our family, and will encourage this sentiment with our child and our community.
After reading through some of our life and dreams, we hope you would like to learn more about us or arrange an initial phone call. Please contact Cindy at A Loving Alternative (800) 556-5635 anytime. We’d love to hear from you.
Wishing you the best,
Kelsey and Ryen